15 Things You Should Know about Being a Bridesmaid

Whether it’s the first or the 10th time for you, being a bridesmaid can be some intimidating territory. It’s an honor to be chosen as a bridesmaid, but the pressure that comes with that responsibility is real. Shake off that glow and start memorizing the following list of what your expected duties as a bridesmaid are, and how not to overstep.

1. It’s your decision to make

You are in no way obligated to say yes. If you feel like the responsibility is too daunting (financially, emotionally, or otherwise,) you won’t be the worst friend in the world if you say no. Many others would be ecstatic to take on the role.

2. Level of commitment involved

If you do accept the role, talk about the level of commitment, and make sure you’re comfortable with it. You will need to pay for your own dress and shoes. This isn’t exciting for the bridesmaids of people with expensive taste, but your bride might even let you choose your own dress, so talk it over with her before

3. Helping pick a dress

A bridesmaid helps the bride find the perfect dress – remember to support what the bride wants instead of subliminally choosing what you would want on your big day. Be honest with her, but not unkindly.

4. It’s her day, not yours

On a related note to not choosing a dress you want: remember that this is her day, not yours. Your time will come to be fawned over, and hopefully, your BFFs will support whatever odd decisions you make. Even if things get a little difficult, don’t make it harder by refusing to cooperate.

5. An assistant and best friend all in one

Be her right-hand woman for all showers, pre-wedding festivities, and the rehearsal dinner.